How To Take BOLD Action, When Anxiety is Paralyzing You

We launched today, after almost two full months of delays. 


This is a dream I’ve been holding in my heart, in my mind for over four years.  I’ve followed Instagram accounts, YouTube Channels, and pinned dozens of RV posts for years.  I wasn’t afraid of it at all, until the first week of September.


Since then my anxiety over this trip has been amping up (30 amps of course!).  With each obstacle we faced, and there were many, I strongly battled paralyzing anxiety. 

The Dream Becomes a Nightmare’


The first time I towed, I experienced a panic attack.  Today, our fifth-declared “launch day” had two challenges.  First, just before midnight our pop out queen bed BROKE with my husband and baby in bed.  Second, our door handle stopped working and we had to have my friend open the door from the inside (instead of taking an emergency exit). 


 I fell hard and fast right into “I don’t want to do this, this is a terrible idea, I can’t do this, I just want to move to a house” rants.  I cried, I kept feeling as though I couldn’t make myself come out of it.  My kids were incredibly sweet and supportive of me during my panic.  Hugs, affirmations, encouragement.  They are such a blessing.  Everyone has been in bed for about two hours, except me.  I took time alone and now am ready for bed feeling restful and PEACEFUL.  


I have some thoughts about what got me moving forward even though I felt paralysis.  


You need someone who believes in you and what you are doing.

In my case I have many: Hernando, my mom, my cousin.  Having that person be in your corner is everything. 

Here are some ways they helped me to day:  My cousin sent me a picture of the Pacific Ocean, to remind me of what I’m moving towards.  My mom has responded to texts, Marco Polo messages, and just been verbally supportive.  Reminding me of what I already know and to stay at a high vibration.  My husband drove, for one, and that’s SIGNIFICANT.  He also just said “we have to go today, we can’t wait any more”  He is right, we have been blessed with a warm front that is making for amazing warm days in early November.  That won’t last, if we didn’t move forward, despite the broken bed, we’d end up in a really bad place.


 You need to be grounded in your outcome.


My outcome is my kids to experience more nature.  For me to spend more time outdoors.  For our family to learn together about cultures, history, scientific observations.  To dive deeper into work I love and support our family on the road. To grow closer as a family.  


The dream, the vision of what we are aiming for has to stay before me or else I lose perspective.  So, find that vision,  what it looks like, smells like, maybe tastes like, what it sounds like what it physically and emotionally feels like.


For me that feeling is FREEDOM, throw caution to the wind peaceful joy.


Sometimes we do have to go through a rough patch to get where we want to be.  I was SO tempted to settle for the status quo today.  Keep your eyes on the prize.


I’m going to say it: Self Care


I did my self care to make sure I could bring my own vibration up.  I took three vitamins because they always calm my nerves.


I also oiled up, I put on some favorite emotional oils to help me connect to my vision.


It doesn’t matter if your Bold Action is a phone  call or a complete lifestyle change.  If you want it, you really can do it.  And I highly recommend getting someone in your corner to cheer you on, daily discipline yourself to connect to your purpose and finally support your body in ways that bring your anxiety from paralyzing to manageable.


I’m so glad you stopped by today to read this, I’d love to hear from you.  What are your favorite self care things to bring your anxiety under control?

Stefanie Melo, Holistic Life and Faith Coach
I’m Stefanie and I am here for you, mama. 

I had expectations of feeling purpose and fulfillment in motherhood. Instead, I experienced trauma, anxiety, depression, isolation and a crisis of faith. 
Feeling like I couldn't be the mom I wanted to be to my five children, I began a journey of deconstructing and challenging everything I thought I believed. It was scary and messy. It felt like heresy! It also led to a deeper faith in Jesus, more peace, and a wholeness I didn't know was possible. 

Today, I am based in Arizona where I Montessori homeschool my 5 children ages 2-10 with my husband, Hernando. I am alligned with my calling as a feminist Jesus lover and a holistic coach to help mamas who are at any point in their evolving journey of faith to reclaim a little more sparkle! 
I coach women to understand and integrate their beliefs, thoughts, and emotions to create a life that offers more clarity, more peace, more joy — a life that is simply better.
 
I offer a unique approach to life coaching, bringing a wealth of professional expertise including: productivity, planning, massage therapy, infant bonding, fertility enhancement, birth work, postpartum support, breastfeeding support, youth and children’s ministry and Montessori education training.
 
If you are looking for support that acknowledges your mind, body, spirit and human need for community, I am the coach for you!

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  1. My bold action is retiring at 62 and moving to Arizona! My self care is good nutrition, vitamins and ESSENTIAL OILS! I could not do this with out my oils!

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