After six unmedicated births, Here’s the one thing about coping with the pain of labor I wish someone would’ve told me, or maybe I wish I had listened when they told me.
Resistance increases the pain.
You see, in my first birth, I took classes, I did the exercises, I KNEW that birthing without an epidural or pain medication was important to me. And I did it, but friend. . .it was not pretty. It was downright ROUGH after my water broke and I spent so much energy “resisting” the pressure and pain, and “trying to get on top of” it. It didn’t work.
I am ALL for movement in labor, but as I spent untold amounts of energy splashing around, moving my hips in that birth pool . . . my mind was all “avoid” “overcome” and that sent actual signals to my body that increased the perception of pain.
via GIPHY I swear this is how I looked in that first labor
It's not about how you look, it's about how you feel
And let’s be very clear: even though I looked “rough” and felt exhausted. . . I very much rocked my birth. I don’t want to give the impression that the only good way to give birth is to look like a zen goddess. Cuz that’s not true.
But I can tell you that in subsequent births. . .I experienced less pain and I felt much calmer and more energetic during labor and immediately postpartum.
And it’s because of what was happening in my mind. . .my thoughts . . .my emotions which literally changed what was happening physiologically in my body.
So, if that’s information that’s helpful to you and you want to prepare your mind, body and soul for birth from someone who went from this (using a gif because I can't find pictures from my first labor)
to this. . .
You’re going to want to work with me in Sage Mama Maternity
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You're probably so excited about welcoming your baby into your home, if you're like most moms you're probably flipping through a few books, you've download some apps, and listening to your friend's and family's experience. You're probably doing your part to be a star patient for your doctor or midwife.I totally get that, and this is actually a problem because you're going to get you varied, sometimes conflicting advice that might not even work for your circumstance, and here is the kicker: lots of time's it not evidence-based guidance.
Instead of that, I want to offer you that working with a doula from your first trimester through your postpartum time is actually going to give you what you really need: cohesive information, expert guidance and the emotional support that every new mom deserves. It's like having an a doula in your pocket (or purse if that's where you keep your phone)
Hiring a Digital Doula is the best way to have a positive experience during your pregnancy, birth and postpartum. I would love to be your digital doula.
In the United States there are two major umbrellas to the field of midwifery.
Certified Nurse Midwives and Direct Entry Midwives
A Direct-Entry Midwife (DEM) is an independent practitioner educated in the discipline of midwifery through apprenticeship, self-study, a midwifery school, or a college/university-based program distinct from the discipline of nursing.
Depending on the state you will see their licensure or credentials as Licensed Professional Midwife, Certified Professional Midwife, Certified Midwife, Licensed Midwife, Registered Midwife.
Typically: Direct Entry Midwives provide care out-of-hospital, home and community births.
A Certified Nurse Midwife is educated in the disciple of Nursing and Midwifery. CNMs are nurses who have completed a graduate-level nurse-midwife program and passed a certification exam from the American Midwifery Certification Board. They provide not only pregnancy, birth and normal newborn care but also reproductive through end of life well woman care.
Typically: CNMs provide care within the hospitals, often under the authority of an obstetrics practice.
Finally, there is a lesser-discussed,, but no less important, Midwife. A Traditional Midwife practices without official credentialing and may choose not to for religious, philosophical or cultural reasons. A Traditional Midwife may also be called a Community Midwife and feels accountable to the community and the clients served and that a birthing person has the right to choose who attends her.
Tomorrow, I’ll be sharing more information on midwifery across the 50 states, so you can narrow down you choices
Which type of midwife do you use for your care?
Certified Nurse Midwives and Direct Entry Midwives
A Direct-Entry Midwife (DEM) is an independent practitioner educated in the discipline of midwifery through apprenticeship, self-study, a midwifery school, or a college/university-based program distinct from the discipline of nursing.
Depending on the state you will see their licensure or credentials as Licensed Professional Midwife, Certified Professional Midwife, Certified Midwife, Licensed Midwife, Registered Midwife.
Typically: Direct Entry Midwives provide care out-of-hospital, home and community births.
A Certified Nurse Midwife is educated in the disciple of Nursing and Midwifery. CNMs are nurses who have completed a graduate-level nurse-midwife program and passed a certification exam from the American Midwifery Certification Board. They provide not only pregnancy, birth and normal newborn care but also reproductive through end of life well woman care.
Typically: CNMs provide care within the hospitals, often under the authority of an obstetrics practice.
Finally, there is a lesser-discussed,, but no less important, Midwife. A Traditional Midwife practices without official credentialing and may choose not to for religious, philosophical or cultural reasons. A Traditional Midwife may also be called a Community Midwife and feels accountable to the community and the clients served and that a birthing person has the right to choose who attends her.
Tomorrow, I’ll be sharing more information on midwifery across the 50 states, so you can narrow down you choices
Which type of midwife do you use for your care?
You're probably so excited about welcoming your baby into your home, if you're like most moms you're probably flipping through a few books, you've download some apps, and listening to your friend's and family's experience. You're probably doing your part to be a star patient for your doctor or midwife.I totally get that, and this is actually a problem because you're going to get you varied, sometimes conflicting advice that might not even work for your circumstance, and here is the kicker: lots of time's it not evidence-based guidance.
Instead of that, I want to offer you that working with a doula from your first trimester through your postpartum time is actually going to give you what you really need: cohesive information, expert guidance and the emotional support that every new mom deserves. It's like having an a doula in your pocket (or purse if that's where you keep your phone)
Hiring a Digital Doula is the best way to have a positive experience during your pregnancy, birth and postpartum. I would love to be your digital doula.
