Does your soul have space to breathe?

Good Morning Love,

I see you, tired in your bed.  Grateful for another day, the comfort of bed and some of that weariness still hanging on to you.

You roll out of bed heading into the the day craving a little more space for your soul.  It's not long before the thoughts about the day's demands start circling through your mind.  

Before you know it one of those precious children has a need, of course you meet it.  

There's still a need inside of you though, and it waits.

The need waits while you tackle the responsibilities: the cleaning, the cooking, meal prep, the commute, the work day, dinner, mail, the yardwork, the running of the family calendar, bedtime routine.

Does your day leave room for your soul?

The truth is, it never will afford you the moments.

The space for your soul has to be carved out, purposefully.  The active choice to make something else wait.  

I remember the YEARS I tried to perfect the cleaning schedule, the decluttering, the ruthless minimalism, the perfect meal plan, chore chart, schedule to give my soul space.

It never worked, and I tried *so* hard.  I worked hard and of course it was all good work, purposeful and often passionate.

But Sweep & Smile, Make Over Your Mornings, Expensive Planners none of it worked to bring me an inner peace in the busy days.  

Those wise women told me, "this is a season" and they were right.  They told me to lower certain expectations, and they were right.  Only, I have FIVE back-to-back seasons of pregnancy, postpartum, infant care.

  • I couldn't wait 10 years to "get out of the season" to have peace.  To have sustainable systems, routines and expectations.  Waiting until everyone is out of  toddlerhood to feel peace and joy regularly is too long of a wait.

Having five kids and six pregnancies in 9 years will, in fact make you shift your expectations on some level.  It will compel you to let some things go.

It won't force you to relax mentally though, it won't fix your anxiety, it won't ease your depression.

That's all an active choice on your part, and it's really not easy to do it on your own.

This is literally why we have bodyworkers, therapists, support groups and coaches.  When we are constantly in our heads processing everything through on our own: we lack critical perspective another human can offer.

The trick is, gaining perspective from the right person.  Venting is a way many people cope and that makes can't bottle up stuff forever.

However, if you are speaking to someone who 
  • has a fixed mindset
  • has patriarchal beliefs about motherhood
  • believes your need or desire to work is ungodly
You're going to heap shame on top of your frustration.

Some of us were controlled by shame as children & youth so we often miss the ways in which it harms us. We might not even RECOGNIZE it as shame.

Mama, this is why I offer coaching.  Because coaching changed my life.  I knew all the systems and practices for "a better life" but I didn't realize how much my ways of thinking were keeping me stuck in the loops I disliked so much.

I want to invite you to consider the ways in which you feel stuck.  I want you to think about the things you've tried and how it left you feeling.  I want you to think about your precious children and if the way YOU feel right now, is how you want them to experience motherhood.  

Now, is it time for a change? 

If so, I can help you get unstuck and live an abundant and embodied lifestyle.  Guided by your values, enriched by your relationships and allowing your soul to come alive in all it's vibrance and live the purpose only you are here for. 

I'm here for you, the next step is to click the image to book your free planning and assessment session.  I'll help you get clear on your goals & a plan to get you there in just six months.  Ready? Let's go!

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If you are looking for support that acknowledges your mind, body, spirit and human need for community, I am the coach for you!  Book a free planning & assessment session with me to get clear on what you need.  You’ll be so glad you did! 

Weekly Planning isn’t Everything

Imagine with me a 21 year old Stefanie.

Awake before the cold, Minneapolis sun hits her window, she gathers her things and leaves her dorm room.

Minneapolis, St. Anthony, Sunrise, Mississippi

Having been in a Residence Life meeting until 10:30 p.m. last night: she is tired.

Her best friend has a thermos of coffee, mugs and they get in the elevator on the slow (like 30 seconds) ride from the fifth floor to the first.

They grab a booth in the mail room with their friend from another residence hall.

They sip, no guzzle, the coffee, chat and plan out the week ahead.

Before Stefanie worked for the leading time management company in the world (by the way thank you Heather for suggesting I apply for a position there!) she was checklist junkie.

She made lists,  
lists for lists,
and lists of things she already done, 
because dopamine and checklists are her jam.

She took 42 credits her freshman year (including the summer semester) and socialized pretty much all of the time.

Her first semester was pretty much all Cs, and her GPA never quite recovered.

For all her checklists, she didn’t really meet her goals that first semester.
Planner, Cultivate Clarity, V5 Precise, Weekly Planning
These weekly planning sessions were part of the key to turning around the ship, wi becoming antisocial.

Weekly planning has been a key to my success as a college student, resident assistant, retail manager, business owner, massage therapists, doula and coach.

But here is something you need to know: weekly planning is the icing on a delicious cake NOT the cake itself.

When you only plan your days and weeks, you end up in your own little hamster wheel accomplishing urgent tasks but sometimes skipping the truly important ones.

You want to build your life on a foundation that is solid, your weekly schedule and tasks are not solid.
Coffee, coffee beans, planning
Build on the foundation of your values.

Values light your path and help you make tough choices,  determine how you spend your time and invest your money.

In Cultivate Clarity, I guide you to clarify your values and deeply understand what that means on a practical level.

Your life is made up of the intention, thoughts and emotions you bring to your days.

Are the intentions, thoughts and emotions supportive of your goals, dreams and purpose?

If not, it is not too late.  

Cultivate Clarity is open for enrollment.
It is the self-guided course you never knew you needed.

Here is what Gina says about it

If you are looking for support that acknowledges your mind, body, spirit and human need for community, I am the coach for you!  Book a free planning & assessment session with me to get clear on what you need.  You’ll be so glad you did!